On Forgiveness...

Forgiveness. It is something in which we all have grappled. Sometimes we are the ones requesting to be forgiven; other times we are the ones granting forgiveness (even when it isn't asked for...). I began thinking about forgiveness this blustery afternoon after it was the topic of today's sermon. I was reminded of the time I led a two-part study on The Hiding Place (Corrie Ten Boom). The first part lent itself to the topics of evil and faith's response to social injustice. The concluding portion, however, couldn't have been on any other topic than forgiveness. I remember sitting with it for a long while, this concept of forgiveness that can be so arduous, so convoluted. So I thought I would share some of my notes/reflection questions from that study. For those of you so inclined, read on :-)


Sometimes things that we think warrant forgiveness (or we demand it), really just need grace extended instead. We can look at the intent and if there isn't a malicious motive, then we should excuse it and move on so bitterness isn't allowed to take hold of our hearts. Scripture instructs us to love one another deeply, for love covers a multitude of sins. Unfortunately, those who have been forgiven can be some of the worst grudge-holders. When we hold onto our hurt and refuse to forgive, we imprison ourselves. Corrie stated, “Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hatred. It is a power that breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness.”


The Cross can never be undone. Jesus paid the ransom. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Believe me, beloved, if the Son sets you free, you are FREE indeed. And what a sweet gift, this grace of blessed assurance. As far as the east is from the west, so far does He remove our transgressions from us. 


Forgiveness is an act of obedience that cannot be done in the flesh. Also, forgiveness doesn't always mean restoration of a relationship. The most obvious example of this is in relationships where there is some type of abuse occurring. And, part of extending the lifeline of grace is holding someone accountable. Choosing to remove the actions of sin off of someone is like cutting off a growth. True reconciliation requires confrontation. 


Questions for Reflection


1. What does God's Word say about forgiveness? Please read Colossians 3:12-13 and Matthew 6:14-16. Why is forgiveness difficult; why is it so important for us to forgive others and even ourselves?


2.  How does forgiveness equal freedom? How are we imprisoned when we choose not to forgive? What does that look like in our lives?


3. Do you think forgiveness is a one time event or more of a process?


4. Corrie Ten Boom wrote, "Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart." Can you forgive someone and still harbor feeling of anger or resentment? How can your heart change? 


5. Is it harder to forgive someone who chooses not to ask for forgiveness or say "I'm sorry"? 


6. Do you think forgiveness is costly? Explain (Hint: think of the Cross). 


7. Is there anyone you need to forgive? Is there anyone you need to ask to forgive you? What is stopping you? 


And, if by chance you are reading this blog and want to know more about forgiveness and a relationship with Jesus, please ask!